Solving Myself Without a Script

I was biking to school like some miscast main character in a movie that hadn’t been written yet, just waiting for someone to explain what scene I was in. Until then, I figured I’d just improvise my role and try not to make it look like I’d already walked off set.

The fields blurred by like they always do when you're thinking too hard about nothing in particular. I had a backpack full of books I hadn’t opened in weeks, their corners softened, pages slightly warped from rain I never wiped off. But somehow, they still looked barely touched. And a head full of voices reminding me exactly why that was a problem.

“You skipped classes again.”
“You didn’t show up for your math test.”
“At this rate, you’re not going to graduate.”

They said it like they were breaking news. As if I hadn’t been living inside the headlines the whole time.

The truth? I didn’t care. Or maybe I just couldn’t feel it. Which isn’t the same thing.
I didn’t believe in the story they kept trying to cast me in.

It’s a strange thing to admit: knowing you’re supposed to panic but feeling nothing. Just this calm, stubborn current that refused to budge, whispering:
“None of this makes sense.”

Urgency doesn’t come easy when the life in front of you doesn’t feel like your own.

Why would I prove I could solve for ‘X’ when the only thing I was trying to solve was myself?
And why should I memorize facts that never even looked me in the eye?

I didn’t feel motivated to carry answers to questions I never asked.
Nobody seemed to understand: I wasn’t lazy. I was just unconvinced.

I remember one moment of that day — stupid, small — but it stuck.
A teacher asked why I never handed in the project. I didn’t have an excuse. So I said:

“Because it didn’t mean anything to me.”

And for a second, he said nothing. Just stared at me like I’d said something obscene and absurd. But there was a flicker in his eyes, a pause too long to ignore. As if he knew I wasn’t wrong, even if he couldn’t say it. Not agreement, exactly. More like the discomfort of hearing a truth you don’t know what to do with.

It wasn’t validation. It was hidden recognition, the kind that doesn’t fix anything, but still makes you stand up straighter.

Moments like that never stayed contained. They always made their way up the chain, until eventually, I found myself sitting across from the dean again.
They framed it like an intervention. But by the time they came charging in like something could still be salvaged, I’d already adapted.

The teacher. The dean. Sometimes both. They leaned in like concern was a posture, not a feeling. Sitting across from me with folders, attendance sheets, and that particular tone of voice adults reserve for moments they believe will change your life.

“You don’t seem to grasp the seriousness of this.”
“You’re failing key subjects that matter.”
“You’re making it very hard for us to help you.”

They offered these open doors as if I’d booby-trapped the rescue team.

Like I didn’t know those things already.
I’d just stopped pretending to react the way they needed me to, so they took that as ignorance — instead of exhaustion, or worse, authenticity.

There’s always this moment — right when their voice softens, their eyebrows lift, and they’re warming up into the life-changing speech — where you realize they think you don’t understand.

But I did. I just didn’t agree.
Whatever message they were trying to send, it never registered.
They spoke about consequences like they were universal truths.
But none of it felt real to me. It was like watching someone recite an emotional monologue in a language I hadn’t chosen to learn.

Detention. Extra tutoring. Meetings with my parents.
I nodded politely like I was being handed ancient scrolls. Useless ones. Said I understood, maybe even apologized for the inconvenience.
But I knew I’d be out the door, and out the school. I just waited for the earliest moment it wouldn’t be rude to leave their office, and I took it.

I don’t think they realized I’d already left, long before I stood up from the chair.
Strange how people can say so much about your future while understanding nothing about your present.

Most days I decided to leave school, I went straight to my mom’s work.

That was the deal. If I was going to skip, I’d be honest about it.
I got on my bike and coasted through town, drifting past streets that felt like they owed me something.
A dog barked behind a fence. I crouched down, let it sniff my hand, and gave it a gentle pat — like we both knew what it meant to be stuck somewhere you didn’t choose.
I didn’t take the shortcut through the park.
I wasn’t in a hurry.

By the time I arrived, it was usually around lunchtime.
There was always soup.
I’d walk in, acting like I hadn’t just ghosted half the school day — as if I hadn’t left a small trail of educational destruction behind me.
Say hi to a few of her colleagues.
Slide into the corner seat in the staff kitchen, the one with the wobbly leg, and wait for someone to offer me a bowl.

Mid-spoon, I’d say it:

“Didn’t really feel like school today.”

Nobody made a big deal of it.
Just the sound of someone stirring tea. A cough. A polite chuckle.
Maybe a nod.

My mom might give me a look. Not angry, just tired and accepting in a way that saw much more than it said. But she never asked me to explain or justify what I didn’t feel.
There was something in her calmness that made space for mine. And maybe that was the closest thing to being understood back then.

It wasn’t just the pressure.
It was the loneliness of being surrounded by people who were certain of everything,
except me.
The ache of being the only one uncertain — adrift among people who wore their certainty like armor, while I had nothing to hold but questions.

Their urgency. Their disappointment. Their fear dressed up as concern.
They kept handing me their version of the future, like I was supposed to carry it gratefully.

But no one asked what it was costing me to keep trying — or who I might’ve become if I wasn’t always being measured against what I wasn’t.
No one stopped to wonder what it does to a person — to be reshaped over and over into a version of themselves that never felt true, until the original starts to disappear.

Everyone wanted to help.
But no one was listening.

I wasn’t rejecting them. I was resisting being erased.

What I needed wasn’t more structure or motivation,
or carefully worded warnings.
I needed someone to look at the mess of who I was.
All the detachment, the skipping, the stubbornness, and say:
“Maybe there’s something here worth trusting.”

Not because it looked good on paper.
But because it was mine.
And that was the only thing real enough to hold onto.

I didn’t need saving. I needed room to be unfinished, even to myself, without anyone rushing in to draw the outlines.
I needed someone to believe in the shape of what hadn’t formed yet.
And to recognize that I wasn’t built to follow the map — I was born facing a different horizon.

And that…
that can be something to be celebrated. Not corrected.

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